Beyond the Boggled Mind

Ramblings of my boggled mind


on November 21, 2011

My favorite definition of soul mate is a relationship that exists on a deeper, more spiritual level than most of our other relationships.

Thomas Moore described a soul mate as “Someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communication and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace.”  

To understand what soul mate means we have to understand, we have to understand what is meant by soul.

Gary Zukav describes the soul simply as “the eternal part of you that existed before you were born and will continue to exist when you die.”

Thomas Moore defines the soul as: “Soul is different from spirit. The deep soul is the way we live every day, our longings and our fears. It’s those feelings that really make life worth living. The way desire and love fit into it is that, what you really long for, what you really want, takes you to your soul, who you are at your deepest level.”

The soul helps us to feel deeply connected to humanity, across all cultures and times, and reflects our constant search for love and a sense of belonging. In the language of love, the definition of soul mate is someone with whom we connect intimately and deeply. Soul mates complete each other and the search for a soul mate is often described as a quest for our other half.

Greek mythology tells us that human beings were originally born with two heads, four arms and four legs. Zeus, feeling intimidated by these creatures, split them down the middle, causing them to spend eternity searching for their other halves in order to become whole.

So What is a Soul mate?

• A soul mate is someone with whom you never have to prove yourself. There is an immediate sense of comfort when you meet your soul mate. You will begin to feel at easy with all your flaws because this person just accepts you. They love you for your strengths but they accept your weaknesses, too.

• A soul mate is someone with whom you can be honest. When you are with a soul mate, you will feel a need to confess. A soul mate inspires you to share things that are very personal because you are not afraid of rejection.

Gary Zukav also believes that you don’t have only one soul mate, but that every individual that you have encountered or will encounter is your soul mate.

Be careful not to assume that there is only one person out there that you are destined to be with, or who will complete you, or fulfill you, or save you. The relationships that you now have are with fellow souls and the relationships that you will form in the future will also be with fellow souls. Your challenge is to determine how you will relate with each one.

Zukav says, Your soul mates are not your saviors. They are your fellow students in the Earth school.

On the other hand, I don’t believe you only fall in love with your soul mate, I believe you fall in love with who you are meant to one who teaches you one thing or another. Being in love is the most talked-about phenomenon in life. The majority of popular films, books, songs and television shows are all built around the experience of two people meeting and a spiralling fountain of ecstasy, commitment, growth, loss and transcendence. It’s no surprise then that love has been the subject of extensive study by philosophers, psychologists, anthropologists, and biologists.

It’s not age, sexuality, wealth , religion or culture that determines the success of your relationship. It is your willingness to discover what love means.
~ Stephanie Dowrick, “The Almost-Perfect Marriage”

Love is not just a matter of the heart; it’s just as much a matter of the brain. Many studies have now looked at what happens in the body when you fall in love. At that moment, which can happen in one-fifth of a second, 12 areas of the brain work together to release euphoria-inducing chemicals, including dopamine, oxytocin, adrenaline and aldosterone. When you’re in love, it activates similar areas of the brain to a hit of cocaine and the same ecstatic feelings. Unfortunately this complex interplay of hormones drops off after nine months to two years after the initial infatuation.

Apart from these undeniable evolutionary and biochemical elements to attracting you to someone in the first place, falling in love is also where psycho-spiritual elements come into play.

In a romantic relationship there is a sense that two people meld into one as partners share friends and activities. People often feel that they complete each other’s selves. I love the way psychotherapist Robert Johnson describes love in his book, The Psychology of Romantic Love: Love is not a doing but a state of being – a relatedness, connectedness to another mortal, an identification with her or him that simply flows within me and through me, independent of my intentions or efforts.

There is also no denying that romantic love has an erotic flavour. Falling in love sometimes points to a desire for fusion with the beloved – maybe to avoid one’s own sense of loneliness and isolation. Maybe a healthier way to think of love is not necessarily a ‘fusion’ of two identities, but two separate beings standing side by side. The happiest couples know how to create a loving merging whilst still retaining a spacious quality in their love.

Being in love undoubtedly enriches us immeasurably. As Dr. Judith Pickering observes, It is possible through love to have an almost mystical sense of our own divinity and that of the beloved. In the luminosity of authentic love there is a sense of flourishing and emerging into the fullness of our enlightened being.

I’m Pisces so for my compatibility it’s different than most and in a way it scares me if I go by everything they say, I can only be with like certin signs, good thing I don’t go by that. I let me and the person I’m with work it out and I hope fate lets us have it.

What I have found for myself as a Pisces is sometimes true but not always I do see faults of who I am with but I see many good things as well. yes I am loyal and devoted to who I love.

The two fish that symbolize Pisces are thought to be Cupid(Eros) and Venus (Aphrodite) who, when escaping from the monster Typhon, tied themselves together with a cord of love before plunging into the sea turning into fish. In the same way, you sometimes feel the need to escape the harsh realities of the world. In this sense love provides the answer. The magic of Pisces love makes you more joyful than anything else – it makes you feel part of something magical and truly universal. — this is very much true for me I enjoy being in love, and it does bring me up and I’m happy but really doesn’t it everyone?

You tend to wear rose-tinted glasses most of the time, and when it comes to love, you’re truly blind! More than any other sign, you love to be in love and are willing to sacrifice everything for it. You are extremely devoted and may find yourself ignoring your partner’s shortcomings, or making excuses for them.– I don’t agree with this, I don’t ignore or make excuses for who I love, I might understand somethings they do but it don’t mean I agree with what they do and it is brung up and rarely ignored.

Being in love is one way for you to transcend reality and escape the mundane everyday world. It makes you feel alive and allows your spirit to soar. You’re an incurable romantic, capable of being swept off to fantasy land, and could be quite happy locked up in a tower with a steady diet of sex and fast-food. However, you’re deeply spiritual and don’t take relationships or sex lightly.

You’re highly affectionate and easy to please, and appreciate the efforts your partner makes in love. You want to know that you are loved and prefer someone who is loving, sensitive and demonstrative to be at your side. You give unselfishly of yourself to others, but sometimes run the risk of losing your own identity in the process. Guard against giving too much of yourself and letting your own well run dry in the process.

What you are really looking for is a special connection with someone you feel will accept and understand you. Life feels shallow and dry to you when romance is missing – so you’re eager to take the plunge. Be careful though… sometimes you’re so keen to be romantically connected that you dive in too quickly and find yourself connected to someone unsuitable.

The most compatible zodiac sign love matches for Pisces are generally considered to be Capricorn, Taurus, Cancer, and Scorpio although polar opposite Virgo can be a good balancing energy too.

I agree on some things in this but not everything it was nice seeing this kind of stuff to see if it is totally me or not.

now for my compatibility…

Pisces and Air Signs (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius)

Air is generally not a good love match for Pisces. Air and water are poles apart, so any relationship between these elements is challenging. Air signs live in their heads and can manage everyday reality well, but struggles with feelings. You are in touch with your emotions and instincts, but have trouble logically reasoning things out and coping with the real world.

Air signs are often critical of water signs, perceiving them as slow – so you may feel a little inferior in their company. Air signs can be skeptical of your instinctual way of relating to the world, as well as anything psychic or spiritual. They fear things that they don’t believe to be rational. However, because the water element follows the air element, you can actually teach air signs a thing or two – even if they don’t realize it.

Air and water do find common ground in some things. Geminis, for example, are mutable and changeable, like you: it’s just that they live in their heads where you live in your heart. You share characteristics with Libra too. Both of you are lovers of art, and keen to maintain peace and harmony. You also empathize with Aquarians’ interest in the future of humanity, although you have a deeper and broader vision.

Pisces and Water Signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces)

All water signs are sensitive, emotional and feel things deeply. Water signs offer each other emotional support and a safe haven. Be careful, though, that you don’t take each other on a downward spiral when you pick up on each other’s negative emotions.

Pisces in love with a Cancerian will likely be highly creative and heaps of fun. Scorpio is a compatible similar sign and can assist you in developing some staying power. Other Pisceans will understand you well, but the negatives in this relationship will be amplified as much as the positives.

Pisces and Earth Signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn)

Water and earth are naturally compatible and a good Pisces love match. Earth signs will provide you with much needed structure. They bring stability into your life, as well as practical skills which will help you to bring your dreams to fruition.

On the minus side you may find earth signs rather dull and boring, but you enrich their lives with imagination and emotions, so generally you are a good love match.

The most compatible Pisces love match is probably Capricorn. Virgo is your opposite sign and although opposites attract, a Virgo Pisces love match can bring out the worst in each other as you unconsciously project all the unwanted aspects of your personalities onto each other. In highly evolved souls, Pisces and Virgo can be one of the most romantic, beautiful and joyous of all relationships.

Pisces and Fire Signs (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius)

Aries, Leo and Sagittarius may stress you out as they may want to push you to do things. You don’t enjoy the pressure they put on you to be more dynamic, extroverted and social. Even though you may often wish to avoid them, you can learn a great deal from them, especially in terms of taking the initiative and acting independently.

When you are struggling, fire signs will notice and show you the way. They’re there to help you become more assertive and courageous, and express yourself with more self-confidence.

ok wow, I just wonder how true these are but Ive had good and bad relationships but I don’t see it being because of our sign. again it was nice to learn about this but don’t mean I have to go by it.

I think this is long enough so who ever gets to this point w/o giving up YAY you!

peace, love & ducttape





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